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What To Know About Visiting A Spouse In Memory Care & How Often You Should Go

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Having your spouse move into memory care can be one of the most bittersweet moments of life. While you may have lived together for many years and separation can be difficult, your spouse may finally be getting the care they need. However, it can be difficult to tell how often visiting is good for your…

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Knowing how often to visit a spouse in memory care can be a tricky issue. Every person with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease is different, so there is no one-size-fits-all rule, but there are some guidelines that can go a long way to finding a schedule that works for everyone.

Today, we’ll answer some common questions about how often you may want to visit your spouse, if you can visit too often, and if your visit frequency should change as dementia progresses.

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What Is Memory Care And How Is It Different From Assisted Living?

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Memory care is a special type of elder care for people with memory illnesses, such as dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. It is similar to a nursing home but caters specifically to the issues surrounding these diseases.

In general, facilities are more secure. Staff are specifically trained in care for those with memory issues, and activities, enrichment, and ancillary care are geared toward memory patients.

While assisted living supports older adults with the activities of daily living, memory care focuses on residents specifically who have memory loss and other cognitive issues.

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Can Too Many Visitors Overstimulate Someone With Dementia?

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In some cases, yes, too many visitors may overstimulate someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s. As these conditions progress, the brain can struggle to process and accept a great deal of sensory “noise,” such as social interaction or sensory input.

Visits may also cause fear. Large or frequent numbers of people who may have become unfamiliar to your loved one may provoke a fear response, even if those people have shared a life together before.

Occasionally, our memory care staff suggest limiting visitors to one or two people at a time, depending on your loved one’s condition. This absolutely does not mean visitors are discouraged. On the contrary, visits are encouraged, but it means care must be taken when visiting loved ones.

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Why Can Visits Sometimes Go Well One Day And Feel Upsetting The Next?

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One of the most difficult facets of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease can be unpredictability. One day your loved one may be feeling great, remember who you are, and have fun reminiscing. Other days may not be so great.

Simply put, this is the nature of the disease. Because dementia affects many facets of the brain, such as memory, mood, emotional regulation, and communication abilities, some days are better than others. It does not mean you did anything wrong.

Other factors can contribute as well, such as a bad night’s sleep, changes in routine or medicine, or a differing amount of stimulation. All must be taken into context.

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How Do You Know If Visits Are Helping Or Causing Distress?

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The best way to understand if your visits are causing distress is the emotional response of your loved one while you are there and immediately after. If it seems like they are enjoying their time, they probably are. If not, it may be better to try another day.

Signs, such as engaging in conversation, a pleasant mood, calmness, and general positivity, are good. Signs, such as agitation or anxiety, outbursts, and confusion, may mean your presence at the time is difficult for them.

Question 6

How Often Should You Visit A Spouse In Memory Care?

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There is no “correct” number of visits. The best schedule depends on how your spouse or loved one reacts to your presence. It also depends on your spouse’s stage of dementia and overall health. Importantly, you’ll want to try to do what’s best for your spouse, even if it’s sad or distressing.

Many people find that visiting two to four times per week is ideal. Others may find more or fewer visits better. What matters most is consistency. Predictable routines help people with dementia feel secure and safe. Visiting at similar times, and a similar number of times, can be helpful.

Your Haven Health care team can also help decide how often to visit.

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